Therapy with Patsy

27/05/2026

27/05/2026

Chronically over-extending yourself might *feel* like a nice thing to do for your relationships⁠—

Until you burn out with exhaustion.
Until you're filled with resentment at the imbalance.
Until you're physically or emotionally ill from the self-neglect.
Until your frustration at over-giving emerges in an explosive outburst.

Chronically over-extending yourself is simply not sustainable⁠—and for this reason, it almost always does a disservice to our relationships.

*Even if* you mean well—*even if* you love them—your fundamental needs can only go unmet for so long before you crash. And that crash can, and often does, wreak havoc on your relationships.

When we over-give, our relationships become shaky houses of cards—and eventually, no matter how much we care about others, those houses of cards fall to the ground.

If we want to build long-lasting, honest, sustainable, and resilient relationships, it's up to us to be forthright about our needs and our boundaries⁠—ideally as early on as possible.

The Self-Advocacy School teaches you how: my 22-course masterclass that teaches you, step-by-step, how to overcome people-pleasing, set empowered boundaries, and stand up for yourself with conviction ⁠— all without losing the empathy that makes you who you are. Comment "school" and I'll send you the link to learn more and enroll!

27/05/2026

I love this so much 🥲

27/05/2026

When our nervous system is convinced that ANY degree of vulnerability is guaranteed to result in pain, trying to be close to or open with someone can be a b*tch.

You need to know that's NOT about you "choosing" to be "cold" or "paranoid."

Trauma responses aren't choices.

27/05/2026

26/05/2026

A note from the beach 💙

This piece of writing by Matt Haig is very present in my therapy room this week, and I think everyone should read it 🙂

From the book Notes on a Nervous Planet

05/05/2026

New availability ✨️

A rare in-person space for weekly sessions has become available 💛
On Wednesdays at 12pm

I can't wait to see who will be joining me 🙂