20/08/2026
DEFRAZZLE - Why We Need to Reconnect With Ourselves Before We Burn Out
Unsurprisingly I talk a lot about self-care....yet most of us are still trying to squeeze it in after everything else is done.
After work, the endless messages we still need to answer, the shopping thats still needs doing. After the children, the parents, the partners, the clients, the emails, the life admin and lets not forget the washing that appears to breed when nobody is looking.
By the time it gets to Friday night, it is no wonder so many people reach for a w**e or two while scrolling, stuffing in snacks in their faces or binging Netflix as a way to switch off.
I get it. I do it too - minus the drink!
Sometimes you just want something that clearly marks the end of the week and says, “Right, I am done now” don't you?
You see the problem is, many of the things we use to switch off, do not actually help us reconnect with ourselves. They just numb the noise for a while, but they don't always restore us adquetly.
That my friends is the very heart of our Friday Night Defrazzle.
These Friday night sessions are not therapy. They're shrouded in spirituality or religion. Nor are they yet another thing to achieve.
The Defrazzle is just a warm, creative Friday evening space to help tired minds and bodies unwind, reconnect with yourself and ease into the weekend a little lighter than when you arrived.
I honestly feel we all need a l'il Defrazzle form time to time.
The Health and Safety Executive reported that in Great Britain in 2024/25, 964,000 workers were suffering from work-related stress, depression or anxiety. Stress, depression or anxiety also accounted for 22.1 million working days lost that year.
Mean while the Office for National Statistics reported that 148.8 million working days were lost because of sickness or injury in the UK in 2025, with an average of 4.4 days lost per worker.
Ok, I get it these sicknesses are not all completely stress related but there is a growing awareness of how many chronic illnesses are impacted by stress.
So its fair to say these are not just numbers.
These are real people running on an empty tank.
These are people pushing through headaches, poor sleep, anxiety, tight shoulders, low mood, overwhelm and that horrible wired-but-tired feeling where your body is exhausted but your brain is still doing circuits.
Stress does not just live in the brain... It shows up in the body too.
Long-term stress is now associated with problems including sleep disruption, digestive issues, headaches, muscle tension, high blood pressure, inflammation, anxiety and low mood.
It can also push us towards coping habits that give quick relief but do not necessarily support long-term wellbeing....and I'm sure we've all had a few of these habits from time to time.
That is exactly why many folks reach the weekend and that Friday night glass of w**e sneaks in or the share bag of crisps that ends up being consumed by one!
For many people, alcohol can be the punctuation mark at the end of a stressful week. The cute little ritual that says, “I can finally stop.” I used to be that person.
However, alcohol and stress have a pretty complicated relationship. According to Alcohol Change UK, while some people drink to manage stress, anxiety or low mood, alcohol can actually make symptoms worse. Even the NHS warns that drinking at higher-risk levels (and by that they mean more that 2 drinks in one sitting and/or several times per week) can negatively affect mental health.
So let me be clear, this is not about being smug, sober or joyless. It is about creating choice or should I say - more choice, healthier choices. I have been that party girl, binge drinker looking for the Friday night feeling believe me!
But here's something I want you to consider...
..What if the end of week ritual was not about numbing out, but coming back?
What if Friday night became the place where you put the week down properly with a reflection and inner peace that had you ready to take pace again by Monday morning.
Well - welcome to Defrazzle
Defrazzle brings together trance meditation, creative expression and thoughtful reflection. You do not need to be good at meditation. You do not need to be artistic. You do not need to talk about your feelings in front of a room full of strangers.
You simply arrive. As you are. Whoever you are.
Through gentle guided relaxation, sensory-based trance, creativity and reflective prompts, we create space for gratitude, reflection, forgiveness, growth and peace.
Not in a big dramatic “change your life overnight” way.
More like small pauses which in turn can lead to big shifts.
Because the thing is when we consistently do something that brings us back to ourselves, it changes us.
This weeks Theme is Trust and Truth
Friday 21st August
Tree Rooms, Colchester
£11
