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26/07/2026

I was scrolling through old TikToks the other night. Trips we’d taken, days out, clips of Archie when he was small. He’s just finished his first year at the comp now, and there he was on my screen, years younger, halfway up some hill, blissfully unaware of timetables and homework.

And I felt that familiar ache. The one people call nostalgia. But sitting there, I realised it wasn’t really about a better time at all. The good old days had their outside toilets and their freezing bedrooms and their smoke drifting over from the next table. They weren’t easy. What I was actually grieving was being younger, freer, with more of life still ahead of me.

We call them the good old days. They weren’t. They were just our days.

Check out my new blog about nostalgia, grief, and why an app that hands you your own past unprompted isn’t quite as harmless as it looks.

We call them the good old days, but they weren't. They were just our days. A counsellor on nostalgia, grief, and why an algorithm keeps handing us our past.

24/06/2026

I had a client say to me recently that they felt like they were failing at something everyone else seemed to find easy. Not their job. Not their relationships. Just the basic business of being a person.

I hear a version of this more often than you might think.

We live in a strange moment. We are more connected than any people in history and somehow lonelier for it. We are told to optimise ourselves, track our sleep, manage our minds, as though a person were a project with a deadline. And underneath all of it, a quiet question most people are too tired or too embarrassed to ask out loud. Am I alright? Is this normal? Is anyone actually coping, or are we all just performing it?

Here is what I have come to believe after years of sitting with people in the hard parts.

Being human was never meant to be efficient. It is slow, contradictory, often uncomfortable work. We grieve. We doubt. We love people we are afraid to lose. We carry questions that do not have clean answers. None of that is a malfunction. It is the actual texture of a life being lived.

The problem is not that people feel adrift. The problem is that we have built a world that treats feeling adrift as a personal failure rather than a shared human condition.

You are not behind. You are not broken. You are a person, in a complicated time, doing something genuinely difficult, which is staying awake to your own life instead of numbing through it.

That is worth more than coping.

If any of this lands with you, I am always happy to talk.

27/04/2026

Part 3 of my series exploring elements of ADHD and the concept of self diagnosis is now out there.

Now for the record, and this important, I really want to highlight that I am not, never have been and never will 'anti-ADHD.' So anyone getting all upset and deciding to kick off, please know that these are simply points of view and it is important that we do allow difference of opinion. It is also important, possibly more now then ever before that we have these discussions.

Happy reading 😁

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