10/19/2026
I won’t lie and tell you that perimenopause and menopause is easy. But I do think if I knew these things sooner, they might have helped 🤷🏼♀️ What do you think? What advice would you give younger you, pre-meno, that would have been helpful now?
1. When estrogen leaves, it takes bone, muscle, tissues, and your body composition with it. Now is not the time to be afraid of heavy things! Start lifting now if you aren’t already. Aim for resistance training at least 3 days a week, progressively lifting heavier as time goes.
2. If you walked upstairs and forgot why you're there, congratulations! Welcome to the club, time to stock up on sticky notes. Peri/meno affects mental health too. Track ALL of your symptoms and their frequency, then bring them to your healthcare provider, you probably won’t remember it all during a 15-minute appointment.
3. Have you ever actually looked at your vuIva before? You should. Often. It’s important to recognize when things are changing so you can ask a menopause-informed clinician. Fluctuating hormones can affect your v@ginal tissue, lubrication, blood flow, pelvic floor muscles, sensation, and bladder function. Pain with seggs isn’t normal. Leaking isn’t normal. Inability to org@sm isn’t normal. There are so many options for treatment and management — ask for them.
4. If kegels really, truly fixed every pelvic floor problem, I’d have been out of a job about 29 years ago. If you're leaking, experiencing heaviness, constipation, urgency or painful seggs, get assessed rather than prescribing yourself 100 kegels at every red light. A pelvic problem doesn’t always mean weakness.
5. You don’t need to be any specific version of yourself to do the things you want to do. I have no interest in helping women get really good at avoiding things. Ask yourself, “What’s one thing I stopped doing because of my body, and what would have to change for me to do this again?” and we’ll start there. You CAN do the things you want to do, I promise it’s possible.
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