Positivity Keys

Laura Shaw Allen, Decision Empowerment Coach. Teaching women to use The Choice Point. linktr.ee/positivitykeys
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11/02/2026

I have apologized for tears in rooms where the tears were the most honest thing happening.

Next time, try this instead: "Give me a second."

Four words that hold your place in the conversation without apologizing for what you feel.

Save this for the next time you need it.

11/02/2026

Happy and grateful I am able to do the work I do 😁

10/30/2026

Feelings are signals, not directives.

A feeling tells you something matters. It does not tell you what to do about it.

Feel it. Name it. Ask what it is signaling. Then you decide.

This is the Feelings Key, one of the 7 Positivity Keys.

10/27/2026

You said no. A calm, reasonable no. Then an hour later you were standing in the kitchen, drafting the message that would take it back.

That guilt feels like a verdict on your decision. It is not. It is an old habit noticing that you stepped out of it.

Before you take the no back, ask yourself one question: Did anything change about the facts, or only about how I feel? If the facts are the same, the no still stands.

I wrote about this on the blog this month: https://positivitykeys.com/post/guilt-after-saying-no-is-not-proof-you-were-wrong?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=blog_share

10/26/2026

What matters to you can change in emphasis across seasons.

There were years when stability mattered enormously to me, and I needed it to. That season asked for it. A different season can bring a different emphasis without making the earlier one false.

It is not inconsistency. It is a life being lived attentively.

What matters to you in this season?

10/23/2026

Some beliefs feel like facts because you adopted them so long ago. Some patterns feel like your personality because they are so familiar.

Digging deep is not about fixing what is wrong. It is about seeing what is actually running.

What story have you never stopped to question?

10/21/2026

You do not need a long explanation to decline an invitation.

"I can't make it" is a complete sentence.

A reason invites negotiation. An apology invites reassurance. Both reopen the door you were trying to close.

Save this for the next invitation you do not want.

10/19/2026

Every yes has a cost. The drive, the extra stop, the afternoon you needed.

Before you answer, ask two questions: What will this take? What will it replace?

Then try this sentence: "Let me check what I already have planned before I commit."

That pause is The Choice Point. My free 15-minute training shows you how to use it: https://webinar.positivitykeys.com/the-choice-point

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