10/22/2026
🚨 I’m seeing RED this morning. And quite frankly, I’m FURIOUS. 😡
There are very few things that make my blood boil more than seeing women who have spent YEARS struggling with infertility, only to be told by their healthcare provider that “everything looks normal,” “it’s all in God’s timing,” and to just keep doing what they’re doing.
Meanwhile, the actual infertility workup has been minimal at best. No real answers. No meaningful guidance. No plan. Just months and YEARS of being told to keep trying.
DO. BETTER. 👏🏼
We are PAID to do better. We are CALLED to do better. And as healthcare providers, it is our JOB to do better.
Our job is to advocate for our patients. To ask the hard questions. To investigate. To educate. To provide guidance, resources, referrals, and a PLAN.
And sometimes our job is simply to admit that we don’t have the answers and get our patients to someone who might.
🚩 Trying to conceive for nearly THREE YEARS without success is NOT NORMAL. It warrants a thorough evaluation. PERIOD.
And YES, unexplained infertility exists. But guess what?! UNEXPLAINED INFERTILITY IS STILL INFERTILITY. It is still a diagnosis. And it should come AFTER an appropriate evaluation, not be used as an excuse to avoid doing one.
You do NOT get to perform a bare-minimum workup, tell someone everything is “normal,” and send them home to keep trying indefinitely.
That is NOT good medicine. That is NOT patient advocacy. And these women deserve so much better.
🙏🏼 And please don’t misunderstand me. I am a woman of faith. I believe in God’s timing wholeheartedly. But I also believe God gave us medical knowledge, resources, and the ability to investigate and treat medical conditions for a reason.
Faith and medicine are NOT mutually exclusive.
Telling a woman who is desperately trying to become a mother to just trust God’s timing, while failing to provide an appropriate medical evaluation, is not compassionate care. It’s a failure to advocate for your patient.
And maybe this hits a little harder for me because I’ve lived the heartbreak of infertility myself. I KNOW what it’s like to desperately want a baby. To wait. To hope. To pray. To have your heart broken over and over again.
Infertility is emotionally, physically, mentally, and financially EXHAUSTING. These women deserve more than a pat on the back and another month of unanswered questions.
They deserve someone willing to listen. Someone willing to investigate. Someone willing to FIGHT for them.
❤️ And if you’re a woman reading this who has been trying to conceive without success, PLEASE hear me: You do not have to spend years waiting for someone to take your concerns seriously.
You deserve answers, or at the very least, a provider who is actively working to find them.
We HAVE to do better for these women. They deserve NOTHING less. ❤️
