The Counseling Studio

09/12/2026

This is an interesting essay, to include not only s*x, but relational intimacy, generosity, and relationship with oneself.

On the difference between wanting and owing, and what the body knows before the mind

08/21/2026

Are you the parent of a child who’s shrunken dialogue with you? Read this to help you reopen the opportunities to listen:

Three windows every family already has, and something I made for you

08/03/2026

Who can say for whom this applies, but its application seems possible in many areas of life, circumstance, especially the first step, in recognizing and acknowledging feeling activated: there is much power in that one, simple claiming to oneself. In that recognition, we climb out of the amygdala's hijacking of our reasoning, then may choose to return to reason, where we can identify and make use of our resources, and rule our selves and our conduct. It does take practice to not react, to move to a place where we choose and we respond, but it sure is worth utilizing neuroplasticity and creating a new route of being.

Not about fixing his moods.

07/18/2026

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DKkjgpQVy/

Five years ago, I finally gave a name to the trait that had been wired into my body for five decades. What I found next is why highly sensitive women in midlife are the first to feel a culture breakin

07/16/2026

Are you a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) or do you know and care for one? I hope you will read this article, which makes great sense and pulls the mask off “personality trait,” centering awareness on one’s Central Nervous System setting and how hormone and brain chemistry interact to move and groove us, especially women folk.

The real cost of high sensitivity isn’t the trait, it’s not knowing you have it. And why perimenopause, more than any other life stage, is when the mask finally comes off.

07/02/2026

Married? Unmarried, with children? Your children know if your relationship either sustains you or drains you. Attend accordingly.

Researchers followed 62 families for 8 years. What they found about unresolved tension and children's attachment security

06/28/2026

Happy GratiTuesday from Project Happiness!

06/25/2026

The conclusion of this essay is posted behind a paywall, but the information available before that barrier is quite relatable and well worth reading and reflecting upon. In essence, if you’re under stress, don’t add more input to deal with the stress, as that is adding to your load. Instead, lighten your stress load, for that is the solution for your health. - AVB

Your heart rate variability has been speaking for years, asking one question: When are you coming home?

06/11/2026

Here is a very well written and researched article that lays out biology, psychology and the central nervous system as central players in a woman’s relational life. I found it well worth reading and highly informative. I hope you may, too.

The divorce decision after 40 is not about her hormones, it is about what her hormones were hiding.

05/24/2026

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1913maXbmX/
Summon your spirit of curiosity and ask different questions:

“We’ve been together 20 years, and we barely talk anymore.