11/03/2026
My self-care plan: to not get better at having a self-care plan.
Somewhere along the way, self-care became something to optimize and be perfect at. A routine to build, a habit to track, a practice to get consistent with. And if you weren’t doing it right, or doing it enough, it was just one more thing you were behind on.
God knows we already feel behind. Self-care was never supposed to be one more thing that makes us feel that way.
It’s supposed to be a place you can come to no matter what’s happening. Behind on your to-do list or not, it’s where you get to meet yourself right where you are, without shame, judgment, or criticism.
There’s a lot of noise out there. Some of it helps, and a lot of it just makes us feel more broken and more behind. So hear me: you’re never behind. Self-care was never meant to be something to track, optimize, or add to your to-do list.