The Freckled Fork

08/30/2026

Last Friday I dumped my entire closet onto my bed and sat on the floor with every version of myself I've ever been.
..the modest-Christian wife clothes...the safe working-mom threads..the oversized everything I hid inside during 2020...the strappy little dresses from my single era that made me feel free for the first time in 40 years.

Two donation bags later, what's left hanging is just…me...the one turning 43 next week...the one who was there underneath...all along.

September has always been my real new year…more than January ever is...January is for resolutions, but September...my birthday month...is for reckoning.

The Statement Piece...live now on The Table Between.

September is for reckoning…clearing out two decades of costumes & finding the woman underneath all of them

05/28/2026

What I’m learning about how my ADHD brain needs to shuffle things & how my fridge is the keyhole to my nervous system in chaos.

The fridge you have & the fridge you think you have are two entirely different things…one of them is quietly making you feel like a failure every time you open the door...The Fridge is Lying to You…

The spinach you lost to the back of the crisper drawer didn't go bad because you forgot. It went bad because by 7pm, your brain had been running decisions since 6am, and it literally stopped having bandwidth for vegetables.

That's not disorganization. That's a depleted nervous system doing exactly what depleted nervous systems do.

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Why the spinach always dies in the back of the drawer & what to make when you have nothing left but still have to eat...

05/18/2026

The kale rotting in your fridge isn't a character flaw.

The bowl of cereal over the sink at 10pm isn't a sign of weak willpower.

Those are triage decisions…Our nervous systems have been on high alert for so long, they can barely remember what it feels like to not be…and they are making survival calls with whatever they have.

New post is about what's actually happening in our bodies…and why the smell of onions browning in butter might do more for a clenched jaw than any supplement you're currently being sold on TikTok.

Come to the table...

On Mother’s Day hangovers, metabolic safety & why your nervous system can’t "rest & digest" on a body full of secrets...

04/30/2026

Happy Thursday, turkeys!

Setting the Table Vol. 14 is live! Friday night at Barclays singing Florence + The Machine songs completely off key with Tiff and Amy, two of my oldest and dearest friends from South Carolina who have known me since the 90s, since before all the many versions of me.

Then Saturday, I worked my first Cherry Bombe Jubilee as a volunteer...I spent the day with the incredible women behind DONA tea, stole moments from the main stage to catch the Edna Lewis legacy conversation with Toni Tipton-Martin, Nina Williams-Mbengue & Adrienne Cheatham, got to meet Lucie of FROM LUCIE (whose birthday cakes I've been ordering since the pandemic!), and ended the day with Rita Sodi and Jody Williams of Via Carota and iSodi. I came home full and ready to build!

Vol. 14 has the full story, plus this week's reading list, a cookbook recommendation, Lena Dunham's Famesick, and a little reset for your week.

Oh, and three new spring gigs are booked for The Freckled Fork...busy season is incoming, and I am so ready!

Two days, a lot of women building things & Famesick in my ears

04/27/2026

Yas has been trying to patiently explain the algorithm to me for months as I’m working to get The Freckled Fork to show up on the map…and me? I half-listened…gave him a “yeah, uh-huh.” I doom-scrolled Instagram instead…(yes, I see the irony…)

Then he said the thing I couldn’t stop thinking about…
“Somewhere in the last decade, we all started performing like brands instead of being people…and the algorithm…the one that gives you the ICK…is a huge reason why.”

So I hear I am trying to process what it actually means…what it does to a person, to a marriage, to a mission, to a kitchen, to a kid scrolling somewhere right now.

Part Two of The Feed is up. Link in comments.

04/24/2026

The Loring Place announced its closing. Cleo just opened around the corner. I filmed Between Bowls Episode 2 with one working mic and the gumption to keep going because these ladies from Three Top Hospitality just opened their 3rd restaurant in 6 years, in NYC no less...that's not nothing, so give it a watch!

The chef content market may be too crowded...but the bigger problem is, it's too quiet...and quiet kills restaurants faster than rent.

New Setting the Table is up...a closing, an opening, Cinnamon Toast Crunch, reads from Kate Bowler and Jess Sowards, and two reservations you should make this week. Let's go eat!

https://tablebetween.thefreckledfork.com/p/setting-the-table-vol-13

04/20/2026

I've been in kitchens that cost more than my apartment and felt absolutely dead inside. And I've been in kitchens the size of a closet where the joy was so thick you could feel it on your skin.

Good bones has nothing to do with the surface.

I wrote something about that...about what's underneath when everything else falls away. About how the ancient Greeks reserved a room in their home for the stranger who hadn't arrived yet. About what actual bone is made of (collagen + mineral, and neither works alone). About how we became the most productive society that's ever existed and also the loneliest.

This one's been building in my mind for a few months now, and it's about hospitality...real hospitality...and why it might be the bones of every meaningful thing.

New on the Substack: Good Bones:
https://tablebetween.thefreckledfork.com/p/good-bones

04/18/2026

Sake Rising: The Japanese have a proverb…

*nihonshu wa ryori wo erabanai*

meaning sake doesn’t fight with food.

That changed how I think about pairing my favorite libation these days…

Sake has about 1/5th the acidity of wine, no tannins & naturally high umami…which means it handles ingredients that might trip up…oh, I don’t know…wine, maybe?

In my kitchen it might look like a dry ginjo with fried green tomatoes, a kimoto with melting collards, a dry-hopped sake with fried catfish.

Southern food + sake is not the pairing you’d expect… but it’s definitely one I’d argue makes a lot of damn sense!

This week’s Setting the Table is a full love letter to sake…the rise of craft sake in NYC featuring the origin story of our very own (total fans, Kura Kin members here 🙋‍♀️), links for some upcomjng events for you to get acquainted, and why Yas and I are all in.

Our wedding cocktail was an apple cider sake sangria. We find ways to talk about it in almost every conversation…We’re totally not chill or casual about this 💕

Live on Substack: Link in Comments

04/16/2026

I paired sake with fried green tomatoes, slow-cooked collards, and fried catfish this month...and honestly? It made more sense than wine ever has.

New Setting the Table is up.

The whole issue is a love letter to sake...a Japanese proverb that changed how I think about food pairings, a Brooklyn brewery that started in a chest freezer and became the first to export back to Japan, and an Arkansas-grown sake rice with tasting notes of honeysuckle.

Link in comments.

04/13/2026

Can I be honest?

I've spent 20+ in marketing and design. I've coached brands on authenticity, connection, and trust...and yes, I believed every word I said.

Come to find out, I genuinely did not fully understand how these platforms were actually working for them or for me.

Yas has been trying to explain it to me for months now. I kept gracefully trying to change the subject...I didn't want to know.

Well...I finally started listening, and today I'm participating in the conversation...here's what I've learned...

Part One of The Feed is up on Substack...about the algorithm, the loneliness epidemic, and the system that's been quietly shaping us all.

The Feed, Part 1 of 3: Social Media, Loneliness & the Business of Manufactured Discontent