06/23/2026
Can You Hear It? - The Sound of Avoidant Attachment
One colleague described sitting with a client with an avoidant attachment strategy this way:
"I could be a blowup doll. They could leave a life-sized doll in my chair and I'm not sure the client would notice."
In Issue 9 of The 51st Minute, I share three signals to listen for — including what Fosha calls "deal and not feel," the mechanism Bowlby named decades ago, and what small doses of connection look like in a session.
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