Keeping It Lit Media

10/14/2026

If you’re married, you love God, and you believe He is first in your marriage, here’s a question worth considering:

What does putting God first actually look like in everyday married life?

Not just what you believe.

Not just what you know.

But what your spouse actually experiences from you at home.

Would you be open to watching our official podcast trailer and seeing where this conversation is going?

If so, we’d love to invite you to watch it on YouTube.

The How To Put God First In Marriage Podcast is built around practical conversations about healthy marriage, communication, conflict, forgiveness, connection, and what it looks like to live out what you believe at home.

If these are conversations you would value, would you be open to subscribing to the channel?

Watch the trailer. Then decide if this is a conversation you want to keep following.

https://youtu.be/3YNbgCO02q4?is=btgnGN2qN9-BcW76

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10/13/2026

How To Put God First In Marriage: 5 Verses You Were Never Told

10/13/2026

The Submit Myth

What does it really mean to submit to your spouse?

It's one of those marriage conversations that can bring out a lot of different perspectives.

But what does the Bible actually teach about submission?

What does that look like in everyday married life?

Debra and I are preparing to explore this subject in an upcoming episode of our new How To Put God First In Marriage Podcast!
..before we release it, may we ask you something?

Would you be open to joining us for conversations where we explore what putting God first in marriage actually looks like at home?

If so, we'd love to extend an invitation for you to become one of our founding YouTube subscribers before our first full episode is released.

You can subscribe here:
https://www.youtube.com/

May we ask you one more question?

What's ONE question about submission in marriage you wish more people were willing to discuss?

We'd love to hear your perspective in the comments.

Your question could become part of our upcoming conversation!

Real marriage. Real stories. Real conversations. Biblical truth.

10/13/2026

What happens when a real couple have real marriage conversations?

10/09/2026

SHE STARTED QUESTIONING WHETHER SHE MARRIED THE RIGHT MAN.

And we were both Christians.

Some of the hardest conversations about marriage are the ones nobody else hears. The questions you never imagined asking. The moments you never thought you'd experience. And the things you discover about yourself along the way.

We know.
We've lived it.

And now, we're opening up conversations about marriage, faith, and what it really means to put God first when life doesn't look the way you expected.

INTRODUCING:
THE HOW TO PUT GOD FIRST IN MARRIAGE PODCAST!
Hosted by Debra and Jabari Steward of Keeping It Lit Media.

Real marriage.
Real stories.
Real conversations.
Biblical truth.

AND HERE'S WHERE YOU COME IN.

We haven't released our first full episode yet.
YOU'RE EARLY. VERY EARLY.

And we're inviting YOU to become one of the FOUNDING SUBSCRIBERS of our brand-new YouTube podcast channel.

Before Episode 1.
Before the first full conversation.
Before the official launch.

AND WE WANT YOU TO HELP SHAPE WHAT COMES NEXT.

Here's a question we'd love for you to answer:

What's ONE conversation about marriage you wish more people were willing to have?

Just name the topic in the comments.
***Please, no personal details.***

Your suggestion could become the subject of an upcoming episode!

HELP SHAPE THE CONVERSATION.
THEN BE THERE WHEN IT HAPPENS.

Our official podcast trailer is here, giving you a first look at what's coming. And we're building our very first community of subscribers BEFORE Episode 1 drops.

We want YOU to be part of the beginning.

Watch the trailer, head over to our brand-new YouTube channel, hit SUBSCRIBE, and turn on your notifications so you don't miss our first episode.

EPISODE 1 HASN'T DROPPED. YOUR INVITATION HAS.

BE HERE BEFORE EPISODE 1.

SUBSCRIBE NOW!
https://youtu.be/VjwIA0d_mW8

10/07/2026

How do you grow spiritually together?

What does that look like?

10/07/2026

We grew up in church.
We knew Scripture.
We believed God should come first.

But nobody had ever really shown us what that looked like in everyday married life.

Not on Sunday.

At home.

In the way we spoke to each other.
The way we handled hurt.
The way we stayed connected to God and each other when life got busy.

That gap changed everything for us.

And now we’re opening up the conversation.

Coming soon: How To Put God First In Marriage

A new YouTube podcast built around one question:

What does putting God first actually look like in the place where your marriage is lived most?

At home.

If you’ve ever believed God should be first in your marriage but wondered what that actually looks like between you and your spouse in everyday married life, this podcast is for you.

Subscribe on YouTube and turn on notifications.
We’re just getting started.

10/05/2026

The Equation Is Clear. The Answer Still Isn’t.

For years, Christian marriage teaching has largely focused on three things: defining what marriage means, defending what marriage is, and warning couples about what threatens it.

Now imagine teaching 1 + 1 the same way.

You explain the first addend.
You explain the plus sign.
You explain the second addend.
You explain the equal sign.

Then you spend most of the lesson defending the architecture.

Do not replace the plus sign with multiplication.
Do not replace it with division.
Do not redefine the addends.
Do not change the equation and expect the same result.

That is the norm in Christian marriage teaching.

We spend enormous energy explaining what a Christ-centered marriage means and where culture gets the equation wrong.

We also invest significant time and effort into proclaiming that marriage is under attack.

But warning couples about the attack is not the same as equipping them to withstand it.

And defending the equation is not the same as showing the answer.

At some point, the teacher has to take one apple, place another apple beside it, and show the student:

This is two.

Now the answer is visible.
Tangible.
Recognizable.

Marriage teaching must do the same.

Christian couples need to be shown what putting God first actually looks like in the way they speak, forgive, serve, extend grace, resolve conflict, and pursue God together in everyday married life.

We have defended the equation long enough.

It's time to show couples what the answer looks like at home.

09/30/2026