The Journey & The Process

11/10/2026

"If you want to party with somebody who might know..." Join me and Jo! Thursday night The Journey & The Process licensed trauma therapist Jo and I break down Taylor Swift's "Patient Zero". Live on The Journey and The Process YouTube channel at 7PM Eastern/6PM Central. Come join us! Pro tip - head over to the channel and click "notify me" on the video and it'll let you know when we go live!

11/09/2026

🎄 You don't need a perfect holiday. You need a plan.

Sometimes the hardest part of the holidays isn't the shopping, cooking, or decorating. It's figuring out how to handle the difficult family conversations, co-parenting complications, unexpected changes, and big emotions that come along with them (yours and your kiddo's).

When you're already overwhelmed, coming up with a plan in the middle of the chaos... That's a whole lot to ask of yourself.

That's why we created the Tears, Tinsel, & Triggers Holiday Survival Plan!🎁

This isn't another resource you'll read once and forget about. It's a practical workbook designed to help you think through the tricky stuff before you're in the middle of it.

Inside, you'll find exercises to help you:

✨ Identify your boundaries and prepare for difficult conversations.
✨ Recognize what's within your control (and what's not).
✨ Navigate complicated co-parenting situations and holiday transitions.
✨ Prepare for emotional triggers and sensory overwhelm.
✨ Make intentional choices about what matters most to you and your family.
✨ Have a list of tools that you can go to when challenges arise.

The goal isn't to make the holidays perfect. It's to help you feel more prepared for the imperfect moments.

Your Holiday Survival Plan is included when you register for our live webinar, Tears, Tinsel, & Triggers: Less Stress. Healthier Boundaries. More Connection.

📅 Tuesday, November 17, 2026
🕖 7:00–8:30 PM Eastern | Live on Zoom
💛 Just $17 — includes the workbook and webinar replay!

Can't join us live? Register before the event and you'll still receive replay access.

🎁 Ready to make a plan for the holidays?

Register here: https://www.tjatp.net/tears-tinsel-triggers

11/03/2026

🎄 Kiddos shouldn't have to manage adult conflict over the holidays

The holidays can be complicated for families navigating separation, divorce, or high-conflict co-parenting.

What should be a season of celebration can quickly become a source of anxiety when parents disagree about schedules, traditions, travel, or expectations.

Sometimes, without realizing it, adults place children in the middle.

Children may feel responsible for keeping both parents happy, worry about disappointing someone, or feel guilty for enjoying time with one parent when the other isn't there.

As a trauma therapist who has personally navigated co-parenting after leaving a destructive marriage, I understand that you can't always create a cooperative co-parenting relationship simply by being cooperative yourself.

There are things, however, you can do to help protect your child's emotional well-being.

Keep adult conflict between adults. Children shouldn't be responsible for communicating difficult messages, negotiating schedules, or managing a parent's emotions.
Give children permission to enjoy both households when it's safe to do so. They shouldn't have to prove their loyalty by choosing sides.
Prepare for transitions. Predictability, age-appropriate information, and realistic expectations can help children navigate changes in routines.
Focus on what you can control. You may not be able to change the other parent's behavior, but you can create an environment of consistency, emotional safety, and connection in your own home.

And when you're dealing with coercive control or an abusive former partner, the goal isn't necessarily cooperative co-parenting. Sometimes, safety-focused boundaries and parallel parenting strategies are more appropriate.

Your child doesn't need you to create a perfect holiday. They need to know they aren't responsible for the adults' conflict.

This is one of the important conversations we'll be having during Tears, Tinsel, & Triggers: Less Stress. Healthier Boundaries. More Connection.

Colleen Fleming, LCMHCA, and I will share practical strategies for navigating difficult family dynamics, co-parenting challenges, trauma triggers, sensory overwhelm, and holiday expectations.

📅 Tuesday, November 17, 2026
🕖 7:00–8:30 PM Eastern | Live on Zoom
🎁 $17 includes a downloadable Holiday Survival Plan and replay access for those who register before the event.

Whether you're a parent preparing for a complicated holiday season or a helping professional supporting families through one, we'd love to have you join us.

Get more info and register here - https://www.tjatp.net/tears-tinsel-triggers

11/02/2026

🌴 𝗕𝗜𝗚 𝗡𝗘𝗪𝗦! 𝗪𝗲'𝗿𝗲 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝗶𝗻 𝗙𝗟𝗢𝗥𝗜𝗗𝗔! 🎉

Healing doesn't have to wait, and now distance doesn't have to stand in the way. 💜

𝗪𝗲'𝗿𝗲 𝗲𝘅𝗰𝗶𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗡𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮 𝗗𝗶𝗴𝗲𝘀𝗼, 𝗟𝗖𝗠𝗛𝗖, 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗮 𝗿𝗲𝗴𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗲𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝗻 𝗙𝗹𝗼𝗿𝗶𝗱𝗮!

Through The Journey & The Process, Norma is bringing compassionate, trauma-specialized counseling to individuals across Florida through convenient, secure virtual sessions.

✨ Healing is more than just surviving. It's about learning to truly LIVE. ✨

Whether you're navigating past trauma, working toward emotional wellness, or ready to take the next step in your healing journey, you deserve a safe, supportive space to begin.

💜 Now welcoming clients in Florida!

📅 Start with a FREE 15-minute consultation to see if working with Norma is the right fit for you.

🔗 Visit www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com to get started.

📣 Know someone in Florida who might benefit from this news? Share this post and help us spread the word! 📣

10/26/2026

🎄 You can love your family and still need boundaries with them.

Read that again. ❤️

You can love your parents and still say no to certain conversations.
You can love your extended family and still choose not to attend every gathering.
You can want your children to know their relatives and still protect them from unhealthy dynamics.
You can value holiday traditions and decide it's time to create new ones.
And you can set a perfectly reasonable boundary and still feel guilty about it.

Boundaries aren't the opposite of love. They're actually one very effective way we make room for healthier relationships.

However, knowing you need boundaries and actually setting them (ESPECIALLY with family) are two very different things.

That's why we're hosting Tears, Tinsel, & Triggers, a live Holiday Survival Webinar focused on navigating difficult family relationships, co-parenting challenges, trauma triggers, and holiday overwhelm.

✨ Less Stress. Healthier Boundaries. More Connection. ✨

📅 November 17 | 7 PM Eastern

💛 $17 includes a downloadable Holiday Survival Plan and replay access for preregistered attendees.

🔗 Register through the link in our bio or https://www.tjatp.net/tears-tinsel-triggers

Save this for the next time holiday guilt starts creeping in.

10/25/2026

Join us tonight online. TJATP Founder & CEO, Tabitha Westbrook, is reading the names of those honored and lost, as well as providing a grounding exercise.

🕯️ JOIN US FOR THE 2026 DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS CANDLELIGHT VIGIL - live on our Facebook and YouTube page at 8 pm EST TONIGHT.

If you’ve lived through the pain of abuse, felt unseen or misunderstood by the Church, or wondered if God truly sees what you’ve endured—this night is for you.

Join Called to Peace Ministries here on Facebook of our YouTube channel for our 2026 Domestic Violence Awareness Candlelight Vigil.

This year’s theme: "Abuse Impacts Generations. Healing Does Too."

Together, survivors, advocates, church leaders, and supporters will gather for an evening of remembrance, truth, faith, and hope as we honor those whose lives have been impacted by domestic abuse. As candlelit lanterns are released across the water, we’ll remember:

⎯Those still living in abuse
⎯Those whose lives were taken
⎯The children and families carrying the impact across generations
⎯The survivors courageously walking the long road toward safety and healing

And together, we’ll proclaim another truth: Abuse can leave a legacy—but so can healing.

Throughout the evening, you’ll hear powerful messages from:

🕯️ Nicole C. Mullen — speaking to identity, faith, and finding hope beyond what has happened
🕯️ Chris Moles — closing our evening with a call to the Church to stand with survivors and respond with wisdom, compassion, and faithfulness
🕯️ Hope Hooton — sharing about the generational impact of domestic abuse and the importance of protecting children

Wherever you are, light a candle and join us online as we remember, reflect, and stand together.
Because every name matters. Every story matters. And no one should walk this path alone.

Whether you are healing, grieving, advocating for someone you love, supporting survivors, or simply trying to hold on to hope—you are invited.

Let this be a night to remember those we have lost, stand beside those still suffering, honor the courage of survivors, and believe together that cycles can be broken and healing can reach generations.

🕯️ Abuse Impacts Generations. Healing Does Too. 💜

Special thanks to Lesnik Family Law, P.C. for sponsoring this meaningful evening.

10/20/2026

🎄 The holidays are supposed to be magical. So why can they feel so exhausting? 🎄

Between family expectations, complicated relationships, co-parenting schedules (and co-parenting with someone maybe not so kind), overwhelmed kids, and the pressure to make everything perfect, the most wonderful time of the year can quickly become the most stressful.

What if this holiday season could look different?

Join trauma therapists Tabitha Westbrook, LMFT-S, and Colleen Fleming, LCMHCA, for 𝙏𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙨, 𝙏𝙞𝙣𝙨𝙚𝙡, & 𝙏𝙧𝙞𝙜𝙜𝙚𝙧𝙨, a live Holiday Survival Webinar combining professional expertise with real-life parenting experience.

In just 90 minutes, we'll help you:

✨ Set healthier boundaries with difficult family members.
✨ Navigate holiday co-parenting challenges and complicated schedules.
✨ Recognize overwhelm and support emotional regulation for kids, teens, and adults.
✨ Manage expectations without sacrificing meaningful connection.
✨ Create a practical plan for navigating your family's unique holiday challenges.

🎁 BONUS: Your $17 registration includes a downloadable 𝗛𝗼𝗹𝗶𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝗦𝘂𝗿𝘃𝗶𝘃𝗮𝗹 𝗣𝗹𝗮𝗻 to help you put these strategies into action, plus access to the webinar replay!

📅 Tuesday, November 17, 2026
🕖 7:00–8:30 PM Eastern | Live Online
💛 Your family doesn't need a perfect holiday. You deserve tools to make it a more peaceful one.

👇 Click Learn More to reserve your spot for just $17!
https://www.tjatp.net/tears-tinsel-triggers

𝘙𝘦𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘺 𝘢𝘤𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘷𝘢𝘪𝘭𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘣𝘦𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘸𝘦𝘣𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘳.

10/12/2026

Inspiration is recyclable. ✨

Wise words from Dixie on the latest episode of Hey Tabi. Dixie, the force behind YouTube's Homemade Wanderlust, has been an inspiration for me and many who get out in nature. In fact, it's a video of Dixie's that got me out on the Appalachian Trail to begin with! You really don't want to miss this conversation!

It's out now on all major podcast platforms and The Journey and The Process YouTube channel.

10/09/2026

"Why didn't they just leave?"

This is one of the most common questions people ask about people who are in coercively controlling relationships, and it's one of the most painful for survivors to hear.

Leaving is complicated and not as easy as "just go." It can involve housing, money, child custody, community, immigration concerns, faith convictions, and very real safety risks. In fact, the most dangerous time in a coercively controlling relationship is when someone leaves.

Also, many people leave and return several times before leaving for good. This is often part of a complex process to navigate. If you want to ask a better question try: "What would make it safer for them to leave?"

If you're thinking about leaving, a safety plan matters. The National Domestic Violence Hotline can help you build one. Or you can reach out for advocacy support through . (calledtopeace.org)

PS - if you're looking for a place to donate some dollars, we highly recommend Called to Peace Ministries. In fact, they have a $50,000 matching grant right now. If you donate $100 or more it'll be matched dollar for dollar. Help provide support and safety. Donations are tax deductible.

Also, this post isn't sponsored and I get literally nothing from Called to Peace for posting it. What people DO get is help when they need it. Together, we could blow their donation goal out of the water... So you know, internet do you thing. Share this post, tell a friend (or a bunch of friends) and let's make sure that Called to Peace can help all who reach out.

10/09/2026

What if you stopped waiting until you felt ready?

When Jessica “Dixie” Hawkins of Homemade Wanderlust started hiking the Appalachian Trail, she didn't have everything figured out. She had doubts, fears, and plenty to learn along the way.

But she started anyway.

That's something we talk about a lot in trauma recovery. Sometimes rebuilding your life means trying something new, even when you're scared.

You don't have to have all the answers. You don't have to do it perfectly. And you don't even have to finish to discover something important about yourself.

🌿 You can be afraid and still take the next step.

🎙️ Watch my full conversation with Dixie on Hey Tabi Monday, 12 October on The Journey and The Process YouTube channel or listen on your favorite podcast platform.

💬 What's one thing you've been afraid to try?