04/09/2026
Father’s Day is this Sunday. If your partner is in the middle of fertility treatment and isn’t a dad yet, it might be a day he’d rather skip altogether.
Male factor is part of the picture in around half of couples facing infertility, and men often say they feel invisible in their own story. Self-blame and grief are common. Talking about it is not.
Where to start:
- Ask him how he’s going, not how treatment is going. They’re different questions and he’s probably only being asked the second one.
- Let him decide what Sunday looks like. Skipping the family lunch is a valid choice, and so is going and leaving early.
- Give him an out at gatherings. A quick heads up about who’s going to be there, and permission to leave without explaining himself, takes a surprising amount of pressure off.
- Resist reassuring him it will happen. It’s meant kindly and it usually lands as pressure. Sitting with him in the not-knowing is harder and worth more.
And if you’re finding it difficult to support him while carrying your own grief about the day, that’s not a failing. You’re both in it.
Send this to someone who needs it or save it for the weekend.