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Now for the good news: you don’t have to stay stuck in the losing cycle. 🌱In his relational work, Terry Real teaches a s...
10/07/2026

Now for the good news: you don’t have to stay stuck in the losing cycle. 🌱

In his relational work, Terry Real teaches a set of winning strategies. They all start with the same move: activating your “Wise Adult” instead of reacting from your defenses. The goal isn’t winning the point. It’s protecting the relationship.

Swipe through to see what to practice instead:
1️⃣ Shift from Complaint to Request
2️⃣ Speak to Repair with Love & Respect
3️⃣ Listen with Compassion
4️⃣ Empower Each Other
5️⃣ Cherish the Relationship

You don’t need to do all five at once. Pick one this week, whether that’s turning a complaint into a request or telling your partner one specific thing you appreciated today. Small and imperfect still counts. 💙

Which one will you try first? Drop the number in the comments below 👇

💙 Missed the first two posts? Scroll back for the 5 Losing Strategies, so you can spot your pattern before you practice the shift. And follow Julie Burnett • Ottawa Therapist & Speaker for more relationship tools like this.

(Save this for the next tough conversation!)

Which losing strategy takes over when things get tense? 🌊These 5 habits are automatic defenses, usually learned in child...
10/06/2026

Which losing strategy takes over when things get tense? 🌊

These 5 habits are automatic defenses, usually learned in childhood. In the moment they feel like protection. Over time, they cost couples the closeness they’re trying to protect.

As Terry Real puts it: “You can be right, or you can be married. You can rarely be both.”

Swipe through to take a closer look:
1️⃣ Needing to Be Right: treating an argument like a trial
2️⃣ Controlling Your Partner: demands, guilt, silent pressure
3️⃣ Unbridled Self-Expression: honesty without containment
4️⃣ Retaliation: “you hurt me, so now I get to hurt you back”
5️⃣ Withdrawal: going quiet and calling it peace

No shame here. Naming the pattern is how we start to change it. 💙

Which one hit closest to home? Drop the number in the comments below 👇

🌱 TOMORROW: the 5 Winning Strategies. Spotting the pattern is step one. Tomorrow’s post is what to do in the moment instead, in small, doable shifts. Follow Julie Burnett • Ottawa Therapist & Speaker so it lands in your feed.

(Send this to your partner as a “let’s get curious together,” not a “this is you!”)

10/06/2026

“You’re so resilient!” Thanks... life handed me a giant bag of lemons, so what else was I supposed to do except figure out how to squeeze them? 🍋

Centering clay on the wheel is easily one of the most frustrating parts of learning pottery. Getting that thick puck low, level, and balanced takes a wild amount of patience and physical persistence.

It’s a lot like trying to find your footing after a sudden loss or trauma. You don’t just magically bounce back—you have to actively fight to get back to center, millimeter by millimeter, even when your hands are exhausted.

To anyone currently doing the heavy lifting to find their balance right now: I see you, and you’re doing great.

Has anyone ever given you a “compliment” about your strength that secretly made you want to roll your eyes?

Drop a 🍋 in the comments if you’ve been there.

Ever feel like you’re winning the argument, but losing the relationship? 💔Therapist Terry Real calls them losing strateg...
10/05/2026

Ever feel like you’re winning the argument, but losing the relationship? 💔

Therapist Terry Real calls them losing strategies: the moves we learned to protect ourselves. They can feel like winning in the moment, but they tend to cost us closeness. 🌊

Be honest, which one is your go-to when tension runs high? Drop a number in the comments below 👇

🌊 FOLLOW ALONG for the full series:
Tomorrow: a closer look at each of the 5 Losing Strategies, and the shift that helps
The day after: the 5 Winning Strategies, what to practice instead when you feel the pull to defend, control, or shut down

Follow Julie Burnett • Ottawa Therapist & Speaker so you don’t miss it. 💙

(Save this post for the next time an argument starts to heat up!)

10/02/2026

Okay, come here, my little chickens. If the Cornell case has been following you around this week, you’re not alone and you’re not overreacting. 💛

Content note: sexual violence, media coverage

Dear Jane Does everywhere,

I want you to meet Emily Doe. She’s another girl who got hurt like us. She was one of the ones who got dragged through the mud on the news and in the court of public opinion.

She didn’t fare much better in criminal court either, where she testified against a Stanford U swimmer. The news published his swim times like that was the story. His name has been scrubbed from my memory and I will never go looking for it. The only name I care about is Chanel Miller’s.

The only things I read about her are what she wrote in her own name, or as Emily Doe in her Victim Impact Statement, when she finally had the time and the space to heal her way. And even then, you can’t say ANYTHING.

She gave us all that writing to help with the silent scars we carry that have never had the justice of rattling in our throats.

And if you’re filled with shame and disgust at how survivors get treated and talked about, those are perfectly reasonable things to feel.

So here’s my blessing for all survivors. May we be better allies to survivors of sexual violence. May we let them tell the whole story, in its fullness. May we make beautiful art from the harm, and may every survivor get to see another sunset. 🌅

I love you so much, sweetie baby. Please take a break from the news for a bit, okay? I know it’s hard to look away when you’re outraged. Your rest matters. 🌊

Now tell me where you’re at. Lament and rage in the comments, feminist fury welcome. I’ll hold it with you. 🔥

Watch Chanel Miller perform “I Don’t Give a Damn” at the Glamour Women of the Year Awards. 👆

If you or someone you love needs support, the Ottawa R**e Crisis Centre’s 24/7 crisis line is 613-562-2333.

Burnout is dangerous because the early stages look like being a hard worker. You can't pour from an empty tank, and you'...
09/30/2026

Burnout is dangerous because the early stages look like being a hard worker.

You can't pour from an empty tank, and you're allowed to be the one who gets support for a change.

Which stage do you recognize? We're reading the comments 👇🏻

When someone we love is in crisis, we can accidentally lean on them for reassurance without realizing we've added to the...
09/29/2026

When someone we love is in crisis, we can accidentally lean on them for reassurance without realizing we've added to their load.

Ring Theory keeps it simple: comfort flows toward the person in the center, your own processing flows outward.

Save it for the next time someone you care about is going through it.

Athlete identity runs deep ⚽️When your body, schedule, friendships, and purpose all came from one thing, losing it isn't...
09/27/2026

Athlete identity runs deep ⚽️

When your body, schedule, friendships, and purpose all came from one thing, losing it isn't "just retiring."

It can feel like losing yourself, and most athletes go through it alone because no one has language for this part.

If you're in that in-between right now, this is exactly the transition we support.

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