05/09/2026
Sometimes it can be helpful to review certain events or actions from your past and get answers.
Assessing your mistakes might offer you a solution to a current problem. In these instances, you could gain meaning from an experience or motivation to do something different. You are able to look at the past and then move on quickly rather than spiraling into rumination.
What usually happens though is you get stuck in the cycle of overthinking and obsessing. You make a mistake, ruminate, feel bad about your actions, feel shame, ruminate some more, feel bad about ruminating, and then you’re stuck.
How do you stop dwelling on the past
Acceptance - accept and acknowledge your feelings.
Self compassion - that was difficult, but I am human.
Mindfulness - everytime you think of the past practice mindfulness, deep breathing, meditation or listening to music.
Talk to someone - speak to a friend who is a good listener or talk to a professional.
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