26/10/2026
🧠✨ Fun fact: There’s actually a psychological concept that helps explain why some neurodivergent people experience being misunderstood so frequently!
It’s called the Double Empathy Problem, and research into autism suggests that communication difficulties between autistic and non-autistic people can be mutual, rather than simply being down to the autistic person struggling to communicate.
For many neurodivergent people, particularly those with ADHD or autism, differences in communication styles, information processing and the importance placed on precise wording can sometimes contribute to misunderstandings.
You say A, someone interprets B and C, and suddenly you’re having to explain something you never actually said or intended.
And when you try to clarify, your explanation can sometimes be perceived as defensiveness, overexplaining or arguing, when you’re simply trying to establish the facts.
Repeated experiences like this can be incredibly frustrating, especially when you feel you’ve already communicated clearly.
💡 But here’s your reminder: You’re allowed to take a minute.
✨ You don’t owe anyone an immediate response.
✨ You’re allowed to step away, regulate your emotions and gather your thoughts.
✨ You can take the time to formulate a response that’s calm, factual and constructive.
✨ Being misunderstood doesn’t automatically mean you’ve communicated poorly.
🪐 And for those interested in astrology, Mercury retrograde is traditionally associated with miscommunication and crossed wires. So if you’re already someone who frequently feels misunderstood, consider this an extra reminder to be mindful of potential misunderstandings between now and November 13th.
Whether you believe in astrology or not, the advice remains the same:
Keep calm. Keep factual. Remember, you’re allowed to take a minute.
Stay spicy 🌶️
