Dynamic Counseling - Colorado Springs

06/01/2026

Welcoming Janet Hise Finan to Dynamic Counseling: Expanding Perinatal Mental Health Care in Colorado

We are excited to welcome Janet Hise Finan, SWC, MSW, to the team at Dynamic Counseling.Janet brings more than 15 years of social work experience supporting individuals and families through some of life’s most challenging seasons. Her background spans early childhood services, developmental and in...

05/30/2026

The Dream Beneath the Argument: What Couples Are Really Fighting About

One of the most helpful ideas from Dr. John Gottman’s research is that many relationship conflicts are not actually about the issue being discussed. The argument about money, parenting, vacations, s*x, chores, or in laws is often standing on top of something much deeper.According to Gottman, many ...

05/26/2026

Why do we blame our spouse in moments of stress?

05/19/2026

New Podcast Episide: Pain Needs a Villain

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Jd6NR8UUaZBYXYdMv4gvJ

The Human Work · Episode

05/16/2026

Don’t “Kitchen Sink” Your Spouse: The Relationship Skill That Changes Conflict

In many relationships, conflict does not become painful because couples care too little. It becomes painful because they care so much that every unresolved hurt starts pouring out at once.A conversation that begins with “I felt hurt when you dismissed me earlier” suddenly becomes: • “And you...

05/12/2026

Becoming Less Zombified: Addiction, Shame, and Healing

https://www.dynamiccoloradosprings.com/post/becoming-less-zombified-addiction-shame-and-healing

“A passion for music can harden into an addiction to applause, a passion for lo******ng can cheapen into addiction to s*xual relief. From a mythic way of looking at it, an overriding addiction would be a demon. A demon being something that wants us not to be liberated, not to cleave to heaven in t...

05/07/2026

Reach out if your child could be a good fit!

05/07/2026

Every relationship is shaped in the small, everyday moments...far more than the big ones.

A quick comment. A glance. A question. A sigh.

In the research from the Gottman Method, these are called “bids for connection.” They’re small attempts to feel seen, heard, and emotionally close to your partner.

And here’s the part most couples don’t realize:

It’s not the bid that determines the health of your relationship; it’s how you respond to it.

Every relationship is shaped in the small, everyday moments...far more than the big ones.A quick comment. A glance. A question. A sigh.In the research from the Gottman Method, these are called “bids for connection.” They’re small attempts to feel seen, heard, and emotionally close to your part...

05/04/2026

Do most people intend to hurt their partner? Do most people intend to be selfish in a given scenario with their spouse? Here we consider Intent VS Impact, and why this is important in laying down the rope in conflict or getting out of the blame game.

04/30/2026

Soft Start-up: How to start conflict without damaging your relationship

https://www.dynamiccoloradosprings.com/post/the-gottman-soft-startup-how-to-start-conflict-without-damaging-your-relationship

If you’re honest, most relationship conversations don’t fall apart at the end—they fall apart in the first 30 seconds.That’s where John Gottman and his research give couples a massive edge. He found that the way a conversation starts predicts how it will end. Harsh startup? You’re headed f...