Eliza Steel Psychotherapy

02/13/2026

Being quiet kept you safe once.
But what is it costing you now?

How many of your couples are fighting about content when the real issue is that someone has gone quiet?

In The Cost of Quiet, Colette Jane Fehr names the survival strategy so many clients learned early on: be small, be easy, don’t need too much. And she offers a trauma-informed, parts-aware path back to voice, boundaries, and secure love.

How To Have The Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love

02/06/2026

“If you're a clinician and you’ve ever thought, ‘Wow, my client is really pushing my buttons today,’ I hate to break it to you: those are your buttons. They came pre-installed.”

- Come check out our latest Substack article about countertransference!

Turning Your 'Oh, Crap' Moments Into Growth

12/11/2025

Sometimes it’s hard to know whether it is nature or nurture that has us obligated to our families of origin, even when we don’t feel good around them. It’s important to privilege those who help us feel like the best version of ourselves is possible, over those who don’t. There are so many ways to be in relationship with families of origin, it can be hard to remember that.

12/03/2025

There are very few moments in life for which we are actually ‘ready’. Don’t wait for ‘ready’, don’t wait for ‘motivation’, these are experiences that come after something is started. Just DO the thing and trust that you will be able to tolerate and learn whatever is needed to keep moving forward.

12/02/2025

When does this get easier, when does it feel routine, when do I stop self-editing so much?

11/19/2025

It’s time to find our brave parts people - the world and our children need this from us….and so do all our little parts.