10/27/2026
She says she’s single. Her calendar tells us she’s investing in a connection. So, when does dating become a relationship?
Thank You for this discussion
Daily FaceTimes. Planned dates. Roses at the door. A year and a half of getting to know each other.
And yet, she’s still identifying as single.
Now, we don’t know what these two people have discussed privately. But their story raises an important question:
Are you building a relationship together, or are you each making your own assumptions about what this connection means?
Because consistent communication and thoughtful gestures can demonstrate interest and care. But they don’t automatically establish commitment, exclusivity, or a shared vision for the future.
And sometimes, keeping things undefined can feel safer than asking the questions that might change everything. “Love is the prerogative of the brave”
But here’s what we want you to consider as a Love Leader®:
In Love Literacy we teach:
Dating is NOT a relationship.
Dating transitions into courtship (a temporary relationship) ONLY when two people communicate their expectations, understand what each person wants, and make intentional agreements about what they’re building and declare they are mutually courting.
That means discussing what this connection is, where it’s going, and what commitment means to each of you.
And the conversation doesn’t end there.
The journey from dating to courting to lifetime partnership calls for different conversations, decisions, and skills along the way. You need to know how to communicate your needs, assess compatibility, navigate conflict, and build a relationship that both people are choosing.
That’s why we coauthored Love Literacy®: A Conscious Journey to Healthy Relationships.
We want to help people remove the ambiguity, gain clarity about where they are in their relationship journey, and learn the skills to move forward intentionally, whether that means deepening the connection or recognizing that they want different things.
Because love is too important to leave to guessing.
Dating becomes a relationship when __________.
And there’s still time to join upcoming Love Literacy series. Link in bio