05/05/2026
Most couples aren't fighting about what they think they're fighting about.
Beneath the argument about logistics, timing, or tone is almost always the same unspoken question: "Am I still important to you?"
Emotionally Focused Therapy teaches us that escalation isn't a character flaw — it's the nervous system doing what it was built to do. Understanding that changes everything.
We just published a new article on exactly how to interrupt the cycle, in the moment and over time.
Read it here: estestherapy.com/how-to-stop-a-fight-from-escalating/https://estestherapy.com/how-to-stop-a-fight-from-escalating/