10/23/2026
❤️ WELCOME TO MS. LAH’S ROOM. LET’S HAVE A CONVERSATION ABOUT THE BLACK WOMAN.
Something has been weighing on my mind lately.
Why is it that Black women are expected to carry so much, accomplish so much, endure so much, and overcome so much, yet still have to fight to be treated with basic dignity?
I’ve watched how people speak about Michelle Obama.
I’ve watched the comments surrounding Senator Louise Lucas.
And I’ve watched how quickly conversations about a Black woman’s accomplishments, decisions, or circumstances turn into conversations about her appearance.
Her hair. Her body. Her age. Her femininity.
It makes me wonder how many Black women are walking around feeling that no matter what they accomplish, somebody will always find a reason to tear them down.
And sometimes the harshest criticism comes from people who look just like us.
Sisters, when did we become so comfortable participating in the humiliation of one another?
We talk so much about the strength of the Black woman.
But who checks on her when she’s tired?
Who shows her compassion when she makes a mistake?
Who gives her permission to be vulnerable?
Who reminds her that her worth is not determined by her appearance, her relationship status, her accomplishments, or somebody else’s opinion?
Who protects her dignity when she’s not in the room to defend herself?
I believe in accountability. I believe in consequences. I believe in taking responsibility for our actions.
But I also believe in grace, compassion, humanity, and respect.
A Black woman should not have to be flawless to be worthy of those things.
She deserves respect when she’s winning.
She deserves respect when she’s struggling.
She deserves respect when she’s aging.
And yes, she deserves basic human dignity even when she’s made a mistake.
Because being held accountable and being publicly degraded are not the same thing.
So today, in Ms. Lah’s Room, I want to ask something:
When was the last time you felt judged, dismissed, or disrespected simply for being a Black woman? And what do you wish people understood about your experience?
This is a space for honest conversations, healing, reflection, and growth.
Let’s hear from one another. ❤️
— Ms. Lah
