06/10/2026
Tomorrow is 2 years since we lost our daughter, Maisie.
I know a lot of you who follow me now weren’t here then, so I wanted to reshare her story, written 5 weeks after losing her and why tomorrow will always be a significant day.
Maisie was diagnosed with spina bifida and severe foetal abnormalities during our pregnancy. After finding out the extent of her condition and what her life was likely to look like, we had to make the decision no parent ever wants to make.
At 22 weeks pregnant, I had a TFMR. Maisie was born and we said goodbye to our daughter.
There’s a lot that comes with baby loss that people don’t always see. The pregnancy you imagined. The baby you had already started planning a life around. The decisions you never imagined having to make. The limbo of waiting for tests. The physical experience of giving birth and leaving without your baby. How you feel about yourself and your body. And doing all of that while the rest of the world carries on.
Baby loss is a complicated, complex and unfortunately very common form of grief.
There isn’t a day that goes by where I don’t wonder who Maisie would have been, what she would have looked like, what she would be doing now.
And anniversaries are hard. Even when you’ve found ways to live alongside your grief, a date can
bring you right back to a moment in time.
Sadness. Anger. Irritability. A mood that you can’t put your finger on. You’re completely okay and then suddenly you’re not.
So tomorrow is a day that will always be about Maisie. I’ll acknowledge the daughter I carried, loved and wanted, and the life that should have been.
October is baby loss awareness month. Whether you lost your baby through miscarriage, stillbirth, TFMR, ectopic pregnancy, neonatal loss or any other kind of loss - your baby mattered. Your grief matters. And you don’t have to minimise it because time has passed.
There is no right way to remember them. There is no timeline for being “over it”. You just learn how to carry them with you.
Maisie Tipping
07.10.24 💛🦋
