06/18/2023
“According to the American Psychological Association, a father’s contributions to his child’s social, emotional and cognitive development is as impactful as that of a mother’s. Psychologist, Marc Brackett from Yale’s Center for Emotional Intelligence, has found that children who receive emotional support from their dads are less likely to struggle with behavioral problems or substance abuse,do better in school and in relationships with others.
What are some notable characteristics of a high-EQ dad?
He is emotionally engaged with and aware of his child’s moods and feelings.
He recognizes the importance of his role in his child’s emotional development and as an opportunity to deepen their bond.
He is an empathetic listener who respects and validates his child’s feelings.
He avoids telling his child how to feel.
He knows, for example, that bedtime is an ideal opportunity to connect with his child- talk through their day.
He teaches his child how to problem solve.
He helps guide his child through everyday challenges by offering simple, age-appropriate strategies or, perhaps, even through role playing.He empowers his child, showing there is a strategy for every problem they may face.
He positively models how to handle strong emotions such as anger or frustration.
He shares his own feelings because he knows that these are often the most teachable moments -Even strong feelings can be managed by using simple strategies such as taking a time out, pausing and taking deep breaths to calm down.
He makes time to play! He knows that when children are at play, they are exploring and experiencing emotions.
He knows that it is not about having the latest toy or electronic gadget, but about the quality time that he is sharing with his child.
Being a high-EQ dad takes patience, practice and commitment but the rewards are immeasurable. Your child is watching, listening and learning by your example. Celebrate this Father’s Day by beginning to use these best practices so you can give your child the building blocks they need to be happy, healthy, emotional beings.
