Viera Harrison Counselling

02/08/2026

Anxious - Avoidant Attachment is one of the most common relationship patterns.
At first, the anxious partner is attracted to the avoidant partner's calm confidence, while the avoidant partner loves the anxious partner's warmth and closeness.

But over time, things can change.

The anxious partner may seek reassurance when they feel distance. The avoidant partner may pull away when they feel overwhelmed.

The more one chases, the more the other withdraws, leaving both feeling frustrated, misunderstood, and disconnected.

The good news? This cycle can be changed. When both partners understand their patterns and take responsibility for their own reactions, healthier ways of connecting become possible.

Counselling can provide a safe, supportive space to help you break the cycle and strengthen your relationship.

01/08/2026

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12/07/2026

If you've been feeling drained, it might not be because you're doing too much. It could be because you're not doing enough of what lights you up.
Take a little time to rest, reconnect, or do something that brings you joy.
Self-care isn't selfish; it's one of the best ways to protect your mental and emotional wellbeing.

Today, ask yourself: What is one small thing I can do that sparks a light within me? ✨

25/06/2026

A fear that is never examined or confronted can quietly shape what we attempt, where we go, and how much we grow.

For example:
- Fear of failure can stop someone from pursuing opportunities.
- Fear of rejection can prevent meaningful relationships.
- Fear of change can keep a person in situations that no longer serve them.

Facing a fear doesn't necessarily mean eliminating it. Often it means acting despite the discomfort, which gradually reduces the fear's influence.

Counselling can help by providing a safe, supportive space to explore fears and understand where they come from, build confidence, challenge unhelpful thought patterns, and gradually face situations you may have been avoiding.

23/06/2026

17/06/2026

Did you know that the CVS Lincolnshire Social Prescribing Team now offers a weekly drop-in session at Tonic Health Spalding?

Social Prescribing can help connect you with local services, activities, and support to improve your wellbeing and quality of life.

They can offer guidance and signposting for:
✅ Befriending services
✅ Health and wellbeing support
✅ Training, employment and education opportunities
✅ Mentoring and life skills
✅ Lifestyle support services
✅ Mental health support
✅ Benefits advice
✅ Volunteering and community groups
✅ Debt management support

📍 Where: Tonic Health Community Hub, 6 Broadgate House, Spalding, PE11 2AF
📅 When: Every Wednesday
🕙 Time: 10:00am – 12:00 noon

No appointment needed – simply drop in and have a chat with the team.

Please feel free to share with anyone who may benefit from this service.

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15/06/2026

When someone's behavior irritates, angers, or unsettles you disproportionately, it may be worth asking why.
Sometimes our judgments reveal less about the people we condemn and more about the parts of ourselves we have yet to understand, accept, or confront.
Self-awareness begins when we stop looking only outward and start examining what our reactions are trying to teach us.

30/05/2026

Maybe they’re not seeking attention, they’re seeking connection. Try getting curious about what’s behind the behaviour rather than reacting to it. And if you're feeling stuck, counselling can help you better understand your child’s needs and strengthen your connection.

12/05/2026

Little bit of help when you are feeling anxious and overwhelmed.