05/14/2026
Most advice about the mental load starts at the beginning — how to explain it, how to bring it up, how to have the first conversation.
But what do you do when you've already done all of that…a few times over?
If you've had the conversation, set up a system, and watched things slowly revert — this post is for you. Our therapist Anna Malles, LCSW, put together a guide for the moment after the first attempt, when resentment starts to take hold and you're not sure how to move forward without repeating the same conversation.
It covers the questions she hears most often in the therapy room — including what to do when your definitions of "done" don't match, when your partner drops the ball, and when you're not sure you trust them to handle something the way you would. ❤️🩹
https://insessionpsych.com/redistributing-the-mental-load-before-resentment-takes-hold/
