06/08/2026
As I continue my self-improvement journey, I selected a lucky book, The Courage to Be Disliked, to take with me on my most recent solo trip.
I find that solo trips give us the opportunity to reflect and sit with ourselves away from the daily spaces filled with external noise, memories, responsibilities, and the weight of routine. There is something about stepping outside of familiar surroundings that allows certain thoughts, emotions, and questions to surface more clearly.
I selected this book with the intention of questioning and challenging my own growth process, while trying to better understand difficult, heartbreaking, and life-changing experiences. Through the lens of Adlerian psychology, The Courage to Be Disliked explores freedom as the courage to live without being ruled by approval, judgment, or the expectations of others. It challenges the belief that we are permanently defined by our past, our circumstances, or the way others see us, and instead invites us to look at the choices we make in the present.
What stayed with me most is the idea that happiness is connected to responsibility, self-respect, and the way we choose to relate to others. Freedom begins when we stop performing for recognition and start living with more honesty, boundaries, and accountability. It takes courage to accept that not everyone will understand us, agree with us, or see our intentions clearly, while still choosing to live in alignment with our values.
This message feels deeply connected to the work of choosing a healthier life, building healthier relationships, and learning to take ownership of what belongs to us without carrying what belongs to others. The book reminded me that when we live with integrity, we do not have to hide from our choices or depend on outside recognition to feel grounded. We become free when we can stand behind what we do, what we say, and who we are with courage.