Mindfully Modern Collective

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09/03/2026

Part 2. The thing that happened is the pain. What you do with it is the suffering.

The loss hurts. The ending hurts. The thing that didn’t turnout right. That part isn’t optional and it isn’t a problem to solve.

But the replaying, the should haves, the story about what this says about you… that’s what keeps it going long after the event is over.

Here are 4 ways to work with that piece:

Don’t engage in avoidance. The more you push away the uncomfortable thoughts and feelings, the more they run in the background. Unresolved emotion doesn’t disappear. It shows up later, often in the body.

Watch how you’re assigning it. Internalizing sounds like “what’s wrong with me.” Which keeps you in shame. Make sure there’s a balance of appropriate accountability and also taking into account the context and other factors.

Self-compassion. Be as kind and understanding with yourself as you’d be with someone you love. We’re so much harder on ourselves. A good check: what would you say to a 10 year old, or to your best friend?

Acceptance. This doesn’t mean you’re happy about it. Here this means accepting the reality of what’s happening, including the uncomfortable thoughts and feelings that come with it. When you swim with the tide instead of against it, things get easier.

Whether it’s a marriage ending, a career, or something you haven’t named yet, the four skills work together to help you get to the other side.

These take practice. Follow for more or reach out if you’d like more support.

09/03/2026

When I woke up at 2am with my mind already running, here’s what I did.

I had to tell my nervous system it was safe.

1. Don’t reach for your phone. Light will tell your brain it’s time to be awake.
2. Breath in through your nose for 4 counts. Hold for 7 counts and exhale through your mouth for 8, slow and controlled. Let it be longer than the inhale, that’s what shifts you out of fight-or-flight.

4. Repeat for 10-20 rounds… or as long as you need to.

A couple of notes:

The exhale is the whole thing. That’s where the nervous system downshifts.

If your mind keeps grabbing at the thought loop, that’s normal. Come back to the breath, not the thought.

Placing a hand over your heart mimics co-regulation and
the physical warmth and gentle pressure signals safety to your nervous system.

09/02/2026

There's the thing that happened. And then there's what you did with it.

Pain is the event. Something that ended, was lost... something that happened. That part hurts, and it's supposed to.

Suffering is your relationship to the pain. It’s the story you build around it. What it means about you, about your judgment, about what your life looks like now.

It’s the should haves. The could haves. And it’s the acceptance that hasn’t come yet. The part of you still running the version where it went differently.

That’s what keeps pain going long after the event is over. None of that makes you weak. It’s just protection that stopped working.

No one is asking you to skip the pain. What gives us more control is changing our relationship to it.

Tara Brach calls this practice Radical Acceptance which is one of the 4 ways to work with the suffering piece. I’m sharing all of them in my next video.

08/19/2026

For anyone who’s saying “I just need a change” and has no idea where to start.

You don’t need a five-year plan. Well, maybe you do… but you don’t have to start there. Start by looking at your Tuesday.

How you spend your days is how you spend your weeks, months, years. This equates to your actual lifestyle.

Here’s the exercise:

Sit down and map out your ideal day. What are you actually doing. How are you spending your time. How much sleep are you getting. What do your mornings look like.

Then pick one or two things from that list and start doing them. Just those. Not the whole day.

You might notice you’re living one or two versions of your current life right now, and there’s a future version you’re heading toward. That’s fine. Nobody builds the whole thing at once.

Start small. Build from there.

The gap between the life you want and the life you have usually lives in one ordinary day. Because a fulfilling and purposeful life doesn’t just happen in the big moments.

Follow for more…

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This one’s for the women sitting in the “should I stay or should I go”. Or the ones untangling themselves from a relatio...
08/11/2026

This one’s for the women sitting in the “should I stay or should I go”. Or the ones untangling themselves from a relationship that left them heartbroken and didn’t live up to what they were wanting.

Whether it’s a relationship, a job, or a version of yourself you’ve outgrown… the standard doesn’t change. You don’t owe anyone the discounted version of you or your life.

Wanting more was never the problem. It was always the clarity trying to get your attention.

And babe, that gap between where you are and what you want is just a plot twist that you get to write, starting with one next decision at a time.

I’ll be here waiting, when you’re ready. Because…

Main characters don’t do clearance racks. 💅✨

How long have you known something needs to change... and still find yourself in the same place?Not because you haven't t...
08/04/2026

How long have you known something needs to change... and still find yourself in the same place?

Not because you haven't tried. Not because you don't have enough insight. You probably have plenty of that. My clients are intelligent and incredibly capable women.

What's actually missing is a nervous system and an identity that can hold the change instead of snapping right back to what's familiar.

That's the part most approaches skip. And it's exactly why things feel stuck even when you're doing everything right.

This is what six months of working together actually looks like. Not a formula. Not a checklist. A real shift, at the level it actually lives.

If this is landing... link in bio to book a consult. Or drop a 🤍 and I'll reach out to you.

07/14/2026

They call it reckless.

That’s what people say when they can’t see what you see. The word measures their imagination, not your decision.

When you change in a real way, being misunderstood isn’t a warning sign. It’s a lagging indicator. It shows up after the alignment, not instead of it. The people who knew the old you are still relating to her.

Give them time. Or don’t. You don’t have to wait for them.

Reckless ignores what your body knows. It moves from fear, from pressure, from wanting to escape something. It has no ground underneath it.

Courage is different. Courage has done the work. It has sat with the discomfort, listened to what it knows, and moved anyway. Not because the fear is gone. Because something deeper than the fear said go.

From the outside, they look identical.

But you’re not on the outside.

If you’re standing at the edge of something that looks reckless to everyone else… come work with me. This is my zone.

Coaching and RESET Breathwork. 🔗 Link in bio.

07/11/2026

You didn’t lose anything in the last chapter.
You just outgrew it.

The version of you that carried you here…
The career you worked so hard to build…
The relationships that no longer fit…
The dreams that once felt right…
The identity you worked so hard to build…

💫 They all served a purpose.

Growth doesn’t always look like gaining more. There’s beauty in the process of evolving, leveling up, letting go and trusting what comes next.

No matter where you’re at in your process this IS progress.

Not everything is meant to come with you.

Some chapters are meant to shape you.
The next one is meant to reveal you. It’s time to be more visible.

Take a moment.
• What did that chapter teach you?
• What are you grateful for?
• And what are you leaving behind as you step into what’s next?

If you’re in this in-between place and ready to move through it with intention… I got you. My clients are making heartfelt changes everyday.
Coaching and RESET Breathwork. 🔗 Link in bio.

07/07/2026

The best birthday gift I have ever received didn’t come in a box.

A friend won a bear hunting license in a lottery. People wait years for these. He was even offered money for it.

He gave it to me instead.

One less license means one less bear and maybe it’s next generation who we will never know about will get to live because of one decision. ❤️

In addition to caring about people I have been an animal advocate my entire life.

✨ This gift reminded me that the people around us are paying attention to who we are, even when we don’t realize it.

You have no idea the ripple effects you create just by being you, living with intention and authenticity and being kind.


07/06/2026

I was invited to be a speaker at the Women in Trial Wellness Summit and host a RESET Breathwork Journey in Sept at the Ritz Carlton in Palm Springs.

I’m so excited about this one.

I get to be in the room with these high achieving women to help them reconnect with who they are beyond the caseload, the career and the reputation they’ve built.

Their values. Their identity. Their authentic self.

I’m honored to be a part of this and support these successful women in their self-care, reflection and growth.

If you’re a woman in law or you know one who needs this… Share this with her 🤍

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