Cooperative Coparenting

Cooperative Coparenting The creator of the Cooperative Co-Parenting Method—a practical framework that helps parents build one secure childhood across two homes.

09/15/2026

Collaboration and accommodation can look similar from the outside, but they are not the same.

If you’re always the one adjusting, saying yes to avoid conflict, or putting your own needs aside to keep the peace, that isn’t necessarily collaboration.

Healthy collaboration includes flexibility and boundaries, meaning your perspective gets to stay in the room, too. The goal isn’t for one parent to give in. It’s to move away from “who wins?” and toward solutions that support both parents — and, most importantly, your child.

If “keeping the peace” has started to mean losing your voice, let’s work on changing that. Schedule a free consultation with me via the link in my bio. 🔗

Healing doesn’t erase what happened in our past. It changes what we carry forward and how we show up for ourselves and t...
09/03/2026

Healing doesn’t erase what happened in our past. It changes what we carry forward and how we show up for ourselves and the people we love. ❤️‍🩹

In my work, I help clients bring awareness to how past experiences, attachment wounds, and old protective patterns may still be showing up in the present. With insight and self-compassion, we can begin to understand those patterns, soften what no longer serves us, and create more secure ways of relating to ourselves and those most important to us. 🌱

If you’re curious about what this work might look like for you, I offer a free consultation where we can talk about your needs and whether working together feels like the right fit. Visit the link in my bio, and let’s chat. 💬 🔗

Secure attachment isn’t measured by how little your child needs you.It’s built through thousands of ordinary moments whe...
09/01/2026

Secure attachment isn’t measured by how little your child needs you.

It’s built through thousands of ordinary moments when your child learns:

✅ When I need comfort, someone responds.
✅ When I have big feelings, I’m not too much.
✅ When I move away, the relationship is still there.

Over time, those experiences become part of how your child understands themselves and the world around them. They begin to trust that they can handle new experiences, relationships, disappointments, and change because they have a secure foundation underneath them. In my book, I describe this as the secure base that helps children “weather the storms” of adversity.

And for children growing up in two homes, this doesn’t require two identical households. What matters most is creating enough continuity, responsiveness, and emotional safety that your child never feels they have to become two different versions of themselves depending on which home they’re in. This is the long game of secure attachment: not raising a child who never needs support, but helping them build an inner sense of safety they can eventually draw on for themselves.

Transitions between two homes can carry more emotional weight than we sometimes realize. They are moments of separation/...
08/27/2026

Transitions between two homes can carry more emotional weight than we sometimes realize. They are moments of separation/reunion and disconnection/reconnection. 🏡

It's like asking a kid to leap from one side of the riverbank to the other without a bridge.

This is where Goodbye/Hello rituals can help create that bridge to foster the connection, safety, and predictability your kids need, instead of feeling alone, anxious, and uncertain.

🌺 Which ritual resonated with you the most?

👉🏼 Save this and share it with someone who needs it! 💙

08/20/2026

One of the harder truths I had to learn in my own co-parenting journey was that ending a relationship didn’t end our need to work together as parents.

We were still two different people. We didn’t suddenly share every value, perspective, or parenting instinct just because we both loved our child.

What had to change was the goal.

Instead of trying to get the other person to see things exactly as I did, I had to keep asking: What are we trying to create for our child?

That’s what collaboration means to me.

Not sameness. Not surrendering your voice. Not pretending the differences aren’t there.

It’s learning how to build enough shared vision around your child that those differences don’t continually pull the family apart.

In Cooperative Co-Parenting for Secure Kids, I explore Collaboration as one of the Six C’s of cooperative co-parenting, along with practical ways to create a more secure two-home family.

Get your copy today through the link in my bio! 📘

A text message can feel private. But the emotional aftermath rarely stays that way.Kids are far more tuned in to the emo...
08/18/2026

A text message can feel private. But the emotional aftermath rarely stays that way.

Kids are far more tuned in to the emotional climate between their co-parents than we realize, and yes, they may see your texts. But even if they never do, they'll still feel the tone behind them. Choose your words with that in mind.

Before you hit send, ask yourself:

“Would I be comfortable with my child reading this text?”

Sometimes that one question is enough to shift the message from reactive to respectful, without giving up your boundary, your concern, or what needs to be said.

Because cooperative co-parenting isn’t about pretending you are friends with your co-parent. It’s about choosing to protect your child from conflict.💙

Save this one for the next difficult text exchange and follow for more co-parenting tips and insights. 📌

If you are a lawyer, coach, or mental health professional working with co-parents who feel stuck in the cycle of conflic...
08/14/2026

If you are a lawyer, coach, or mental health professional working with co-parents who feel stuck in the cycle of conflict, this is for you.

I'm thrilled to be teaming up with Laura Lorber, JD, and Sarah Romero Yetter, MA, to bring you a 3-part webinar series, From Adversaries to Allies, part of the AFCC monthly online webinar series.

We'll explore three research-based frameworks: temperament, attachment, and cultural strengths. Together, we will show how to help shift families away from adversarial patterns and toward more collaborative, child-focused Team Kiddo partnerships.

Wednesday, August 19 | 12:00–1:30 PM PDT
Register here: https://afcc-ca.org/product/afcc-california-webinar-august-19-2026-12-noon-130-pm/

08/13/2026

Every parent wants to make sure their child is okay, and especially when you’re co-parenting across two homes, it’s easy to worry about how the separation is affecting your child. One of the most foundational things you can give them is the sense that their adults are still working together on their behalf. This is why Team Kiddo is so important.

Here's what Team Kiddo looks like day-to-day:

👉 Catching a “you always…” text and reframing it around the child's needs.
👉 Creating shared routines around things like bedtime and homework.
👉 Keeping each other informed about all things kiddo (sleep, school, illness, struggles).
👉 Making handoffs calm and respectful.
👉 Showing up together for the big moments (recitals, games, graduations) to delight in your kiddo.

None of this requires you to agree on everything or have a close relationship with your co-parent. It means making sure your child doesn’t have to carry the communication, logistics, or tension between two homes. 🏡

For more practical tools for creating a secure, cooperative two-home family, check out my book Cooperative Co-Parenting for Secure Kids at the link in my bio. 💙

When co-parenting feels tense, repetitive, or emotionally draining, boundaries can help create a different kind of struc...
08/11/2026

When co-parenting feels tense, repetitive, or emotionally draining, boundaries can help create a different kind of structure - one that doesn’t depend on your co-parent changing.

Clear boundaries can reduce unnecessary conflict, protect your peace, and give your child more predictability and emotional safety across two homes.

Which boundary would make the biggest difference in your co-parenting dynamic right now? 💙

Want to learn how to build the childhood your kids need in order to thrive through your divorce? 🌱Cooperative Co-parenti...
08/04/2026

Want to learn how to build the childhood your kids need in order to thrive through your divorce? 🌱

Cooperative Co-parenting is much more than coordinating logistics and managing your ex.

My book, Cooperative Co-Parenting for Secure Kids, offers an attachment-based framework and practical tools to help you learn the skills to build the foundation your kids need.

Learn more and order your copy through the link in bio. 🔗

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