Kolas Space

01/08/2026

✨ Wisdom Wednesday ✨

“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” — Dr. Maya Angelou

In a world that often moves quickly, kindness leaves a lasting impression. Long after conversations fade and accomplishments are forgotten, the way we treat one another remains.

Dr. Maya Angelou reminds us that empathy, compassion, and genuine human connection are among the most powerful gifts we can offer. Sometimes the smallest act of kindness can have the greatest impact.

As you move through this week, consider how you make others feel.

Who made a lasting impact on your life through kindness? ✨💛

28/07/2026

One of the biggest myths I hear is...

"I'm just not a good parent."

The parents I work with aren't failing.

They're exhausted.

They're trying to parent children who may have experienced trauma, anxiety, attachment difficulties or emotional overwhelm—often with very little understanding from the world around them.

Parenting these children isn't about finding the perfect strategy.

It's about understanding what's driving the behaviour and responding in ways that help children feel safe.

There's no such thing as a perfect parent.

There are only parents who keep showing up.

And that matters more than you know. 💛

13/07/2026

One simple shift can help to change your mornings:

Reduce the number of demands in the first 15 minutes.

Children who have experiencer trauma, or display neurodivergent charachteristics may wake up already in a heightened state.

Instead of: ‘Get dressed, brush your teeth, hurry up!’

Try: ‘Good morning. Let’s start slowly.’

Connection first. Demands later.

It sounds small, but it can help change everything.

Save this for tomorrow morning.

10/07/2026

Sand in play therapy is far more than just arranging figures in a tray—it is a profound, non-verbal journey into the depths of the psyche.
​Dora Kalff, the founder of this modality, offered a powerful reminder for any clinician considering this path:
​"Therefore, I urgently advise that even a psychotherapist highly experienced in other methodologies, who contemplates practicing sandplay, should have a deep personal experience doing a sandplay process as a patient with a qualified sandplay therapist and an extended period of careful supervision—anything less would be irresponsible." (Kalff, 1980, p. 8).

​Why is this level of preparation non-negotiable?

​Personal Insight: You must understand the vulnerability of being on the other side of the tray to truly hold space for a client.

​The Unconscious: Sandplay touches material that lives beneath language; personal work ensures a therapist can navigate this terrain without projecting their own unconscious onto the client.

​Ethical Integrity: Supervision is the vital container that ensures the safety of the therapeutic process.
​The most effective "tool" in the sandplay room is the well-examined, well-supervised practitioner. If you are called to this work, honor the depth of the process by committing to your own journey first.

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10/07/2026

My fellow specialist in developmental trauma and attachment, based in Romsey.

Behind the scenes......

I often get asked what my sessions look like.

The answer is… they're rarely spent sitting opposite a child asking lots of questions and everyone is different.

We play.
We draw.
We build.
We colour.
We laugh.
We move.

Because children tell us far more through play than they ever could in conversation.

My therapy room is designed to feel safe, not clinical.

Healing happens through connection first.

07/07/2026

If your family is rebuilding after difficult moments, here are three trauma-informed strategies you can try at home today. 1) Playful curiosity: I encourage gentle, non-judgemental conversations that follow a child’s lead - this helps restore safety and connection. 2) Accepting language: Use PACE (playful, accepting, curious, empathetic) when addressing overwhelm so children feel understood, which reduces conflict and improves cooperation. 3) Predictable routines: Small, consistent rituals (mealtime check-ins or bedtime wind-downs) increase trust and lower anxiety. These approaches boost emotional regulation, strengthen attachment, and create more peaceful days.
Want tailored ideas for your family? Visit https://wix.to/IZFMb80 to learn more and book a consultation.

04/07/2026

Maybe…. 💭 💕

Hoping you take these thoughts into the weekend with you. ☺️

01/07/2026

When you take a teenager out for chocolate fudge cake instead of doing something creative they still manage to make something creative to leave for the waitress. It has marshmallows as the sweetcorn bits. 💩 🤦🏻‍♀️ Never a dull work day

26/06/2026

Rooted in Play 💕