06/22/2026
Cancer Center Chaplain's Corner: I’m always blessed to spend time with people who come in for treatment. Over the past couple of weeks, people have shared stories about themselves… their illnesses, how it has impacted them, and how they have moved through difficult times. One of the things that struck me significantly is recognizing that many are caregivers to others at the same time they are in treatment and living with cancer.
For many, with all that is happening, it can be a struggle to care for others in ways they’ve been accustomed to or would like to. Some have also said they aren’t the same person they used to be, and for them, it hurts.
It can be hard for us to acknowledge our limitations and accept this kind of change, extremely hard.
But what also struck me is how people have adapted and moved toward acceptance. Someone I spoke with told me that for him, it’s about reminding himself that he will do what he can, when he can. And when he can’t, he will take the time for himself that he needs – to rest, to nap, to read, or simply to sit on the porch in quiet solitude with a cup of coffee. And to remind himself that he is still the doer that he always was and always will be - just a bit differently.
Another person spoke of caring for her partner, and at times, it can be challenging, physically and emotionally. She is learning to remind herself that, regardless, she is still “doing” and that she is still a caregiver. She, too, reflected on taking the time she needs and that it’s important for her to be gentle with herself. Key for her is to bear in mind that what she does, she does with love – just like always.
Both individuals spoke of another very helpful thing: having someone to talk to. Whether it be a friend or confidant, a family member, clergy, a counselor, or a chaplain here at the Cancer Center. They said sharing one’s thoughts and feelings is important and helps them see and think about things differently, more clearly.
Please know that Chaplain Kate and I are here for you should you want to talk about what you are experiencing and the changes that you are facing in your lives, however they may be affecting you. Your nurse or provider can reach out to Spiritual Care, or you can call us at (315) 464-4687. We look forward to sharing time together.
Peace and blessings be with you,
Chaplain Tom
