06/16/2026
A public figure called Michelle Obama a man.
As a trauma therapist and trauma survivor, I need to say something about this. š£ļø
And while some people will dismiss it as ājust an insult,ā emotional abuse survivors know exactly whatās happening here.
One of the fastest ways to wound a woman is to attack her appearance.
Because girls are taught from a young age that their value is tied to how they look.
That they must be beautiful enough.
Feminine enough.
Young enough.
Small enough.
Pleasing enough.
So when someone wants to hurt a woman, they often attack the very thing society has taught her to base her worth on.
That isnāt strength.
That isnāt leadership.
That isnāt confidence.
Itās cruelty.
And letās be very clear:
Michelle Obama is one of the most accomplished, intelligent, compassionate, and influential women of our time.
Her strength does not make her masculine.
Her confidence does not make her masculine.
Her power does not make her masculine.
In fact, being a woman often requires extraordinary strength.
Many of us learned this firsthand.
As survivors of emotional abuse, we know what it feels like to be criticized, mocked, diminished, and told we are not enough.
Healing is learning to stop measuring your worth through the eyes of people who benefit from your insecurity.
Healing is remembering who you are.
And healing is refusing to participate in a culture that tears women down for being powerful. āØ
If youāre healing from emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, childhood trauma, or years of feeling like you were never enough -
comment āHEALINGā or DM me healing and Iāll send you information about the ways we can work together. š
If we havenāt met yet, Iām Renee Minx - trauma therapist, trauma survivor, and founder of the Donāt Leave Yourself movement. And my mission is helping survivors come home to themselves.
